Comments for youthwork talk http://youthworktalk.com Blog | Youth Ministry | Youth work | Student Ministry | Faith | Family | Life Thu, 17 May 2012 12:54:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 Comment on 10 Signs That Insecurity Could Be Eating Away At You And Your Youth Ministry by Brandon http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/03/10-signs-that-insecurity-could-be-eating-away-at-you-and-your-youth-ministry/comment-page-1/#comment-942 Brandon Thu, 17 May 2012 12:54:58 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3145#comment-942 #7 in your list stings a little bit, so I talked to some other youth ministers who agree with me that #7 is a too critical of my insecurities. :) #7 in your list stings a little bit, so I talked to some other youth ministers who agree with me that #7 is a too critical of my insecurities. :)

]]> Comment on Balancing Family & Ministry Part 1: SYMC Giveaway by Nikki http://youthworktalk.com/2011/10/04/balancing-family-ministry-part-1-symc-giveaway/comment-page-1/#comment-940 Nikki Tue, 15 May 2012 04:15:59 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=2069#comment-940 WOW. This is some heavy, yet, great stuff. Def. hitting home for me. Here are a few suggestions/ advise I would give David. I am no way an expert, my husband and I are learning first hand after relocating into the area we minister in what it means to set boundaries. WE have been on staff with this urban ministry for 6 years now and things are starting to get crazy. With that being said my first suggestion for David would be STOP everything and set boundaries, healthy ones for you and your family. Weekly scheduled date night, having transparent, honest, confession of how overwhelmed things are for him. listening and asking his wife how he is doing as a husband, his wife also sharing her concerns, dreams and frustrations. Lines of communication would need to stay open in order for this mariage to survive. Set boundaries on the amount of time spent on the phone talking about ministry, NO MINISTRY TALK ON DATE NIGHT! No answering phone when at home with wife and kids. remembering EVERYTHING IS NOT A CRISIS SITUATION. Learn to allow others to carry their own burdens for a a sec. FIND people in your community ( body of believers) you can be 100% transparent with about how your marriage is holding up as well as people who aren't afraid to WOUND you as a friend and brother and sister in Christ. so important! spending consistent time with your OWN KIDS.. your children will resent GOd and ministry if they see you are being more of a hero with the kids in your youth ministry then you are with your own kids. Ministry FIRST begins at HOME! oh, what a hard lesson!!! I cant really relate to this story, but my husband and I have talked to many couples and heard their stories of having to deal with simular situations. God is using their experience to teach us how to guard against going down the same path. Because of what we are seeing and hearing, we are now afraid in a healthy way I believe. We are really on guard in protecting our family time, we are learning to SAY NO to additional ministry opportunities, we have starting to cut out whats not needed and allow others to step in and serve. WE DONT HAVE TO BE THE ONES DOING IT ALL THE TIME! we are learning how to dialogue more as a couple in areas we are frustrated in due to ministry and how it effects our family. We are investing in hobbies, so we can have that time where we are pulling away from ministry and resting. We are hanging out with friends that wont sit and ask us for hours about the "ministry" but friends who want to know how WE are doing in our family and our marriage. This conference sounds amazing! I hope I win! LOL! if not, I'm sharing this with my hubbie and I hope we can attend anyway. SUCH A GREAT NEED FOR ALL THOSE IN MINISTRY!! Thanks for the opportunity! WOW. This is some heavy, yet, great stuff. Def. hitting home for me.

Here are a few suggestions/ advise I would give David. I am no way an expert, my husband and I are learning first hand after relocating into the area we minister in what it means to set boundaries. WE have been on staff with this urban ministry for 6 years now and things are starting to get crazy.

With that being said my first suggestion for David would be STOP everything and set boundaries, healthy ones for you and your family. Weekly scheduled date night, having transparent, honest, confession of how overwhelmed things are for him. listening and asking his wife how he is doing as a husband, his wife also sharing her concerns, dreams and frustrations. Lines of communication would need to stay open in order for this mariage to survive. Set boundaries on the amount of time spent on the phone talking about ministry, NO MINISTRY TALK ON DATE NIGHT! No answering phone when at home with wife and kids. remembering EVERYTHING IS NOT A CRISIS SITUATION. Learn to allow others to carry their own burdens for a a sec. FIND people in your community ( body of believers) you can be 100% transparent with about how your marriage is holding up as well as people who aren’t afraid to WOUND you as a friend and brother and sister in Christ. so important! spending consistent time with your OWN KIDS.. your children will resent GOd and ministry if they see you are being more of a hero with the kids in your youth ministry then you are with your own kids. Ministry FIRST begins at HOME! oh, what a hard lesson!!!

I cant really relate to this story, but my husband and I have talked to many couples and heard their stories of having to deal with simular situations. God is using their experience to teach us how to guard against going down the same path. Because of what we are seeing and hearing, we are now afraid in a healthy way I believe. We are really on guard in protecting our family time, we are learning to SAY NO to additional ministry opportunities, we have starting to cut out whats not needed and allow others to step in and serve. WE DONT HAVE TO BE THE ONES DOING IT ALL THE TIME! we are learning how to dialogue more as a couple in areas we are frustrated in due to ministry and how it effects our family. We are investing in hobbies, so we can have that time where we are pulling away from ministry and resting. We are hanging out with friends that wont sit and ask us for hours about the “ministry” but friends who want to know how WE are doing in our family and our marriage.

This conference sounds amazing! I hope I win! LOL! if not, I’m sharing this with my hubbie and I hope we can attend anyway. SUCH A GREAT NEED FOR ALL THOSE IN MINISTRY!! Thanks for the opportunity!

]]> Comment on 10 Signs That Insecurity Could Be Eating Away At You And Your Youth Ministry by Phil Bell http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/03/10-signs-that-insecurity-could-be-eating-away-at-you-and-your-youth-ministry/comment-page-1/#comment-939 Phil Bell Tue, 15 May 2012 02:16:58 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3145#comment-939 Kelli, I am so glad this post helped you today! Like you said, it's so important that we look to please Jesus first! I am convinced that the root to burnout for many youth workers is the seed of people of pleasing... Phil < Kelli, I am so glad this post helped you today!

Like you said, it’s so important that we look to please Jesus first! I am convinced that the root to burnout for many youth workers is the seed of people of pleasing…

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]]> Comment on 10 Signs That Insecurity Could Be Eating Away At You And Your Youth Ministry by Kelli M http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/03/10-signs-that-insecurity-could-be-eating-away-at-you-and-your-youth-ministry/comment-page-1/#comment-938 Kelli M Mon, 14 May 2012 16:43:03 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3145#comment-938 wow... i definitely needed to see this today! I am a part time youth director at a small church, which happens to be the church i was raised in. I often find myself insecure of what I am doing. This summer I interned at a large church and as soon as I moved home I began working at the church I am currently at. I am single, young, and still have so much to learn! I often feel i have to please EVERYONE in my church and in a way "prove" myself to everyone. It gets tiring. I needed to be reminded that the only person I need to be pleasing is Jesus. Its funny how I share that truth with my students all the time and i still need to be reminded of it as well! Thanks for your post and encouraging me today! Praying for you and your ministry! wow… i definitely needed to see this today! I am a part time youth director at a small church, which happens to be the church i was raised in. I often find myself insecure of what I am doing. This summer I interned at a large church and as soon as I moved home I began working at the church I am currently at. I am single, young, and still have so much to learn! I often feel i have to please EVERYONE in my church and in a way “prove” myself to everyone. It gets tiring. I needed to be reminded that the only person I need to be pleasing is Jesus. Its funny how I share that truth with my students all the time and i still need to be reminded of it as well! Thanks for your post and encouraging me today! Praying for you and your ministry!

]]> Comment on Married In Youth Ministry by Phil Bell http://youthworktalk.com/2012/02/09/married-in-youth-ministry/comment-page-1/#comment-930 Phil Bell Wed, 09 May 2012 01:46:51 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=2517#comment-930 Morgan, you should certainly follow Leneita on twitter if you are not already! She and John share a similar role and life as you and your hubby! Thanks so much for stopping by youthworktalk. Stay connected with us and let us know how we can support you further? Phil <>< Morgan, you should certainly follow Leneita on twitter if you are not already! She and John share a similar role and life as you and your hubby! Thanks so much for stopping by youthworktalk. Stay connected with us and let us know how we can support you further?

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]]> Comment on Married In Youth Ministry by Morgan Paddock http://youthworktalk.com/2012/02/09/married-in-youth-ministry/comment-page-1/#comment-929 Morgan Paddock Tue, 08 May 2012 19:38:45 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=2517#comment-929 I loved this article. My husband and I are inner city missionaries as well on staff with a ministry. We rarely meet people who are doing the same thing as a couple full time. Kindred hearts. Love it and Thank You! Morgan I loved this article. My husband and I are inner city missionaries as well on staff with a ministry. We rarely meet people who are doing the same thing as a couple full time. Kindred hearts. Love it and Thank You!
Morgan

]]> Comment on Three Youth Ministry Priorities For Mondays by Phil Bell http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/07/three-youth-ministry-priorities-for-mondays/comment-page-1/#comment-928 Phil Bell Tue, 08 May 2012 04:19:12 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3254#comment-928 Scott! Cheers! Brilliant! Phil < Scott! Cheers! Brilliant!

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]]> Comment on Three Youth Ministry Priorities For Mondays by Scott Tinman http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/07/three-youth-ministry-priorities-for-mondays/comment-page-1/#comment-927 Scott Tinman Tue, 08 May 2012 03:34:37 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3254#comment-927 Phil...got some of the noise canceling ones and they are great...not only building relationships with baristas but also the locals like you said...almost feels like Cheers...except a coffee shop that knows your name :) Phil…got some of the noise canceling ones and they are great…not only building relationships with baristas but also the locals like you said…almost feels like Cheers…except a coffee shop that knows your name :)

]]> Comment on Three Youth Ministry Priorities For Mondays by Phil Bell http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/07/three-youth-ministry-priorities-for-mondays/comment-page-1/#comment-926 Phil Bell Tue, 08 May 2012 01:55:29 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3254#comment-926 Jeremy, great feedback. Maybe I'll post that in the coming weeks? Would you like to guest post your schedule too? Let me know? Hey Phil, (great name)! Thanks for the encouraging feedback! Scott!!! It's great to have those places to hideaway. I also get so many opportunities to reach out the staff there and the locals who come in regularly and have gotten to know me. Headphones are vital to tune out and tune into my message writing. My next goal is to get noise canceling ones... Phil < Jeremy,
great feedback. Maybe I’ll post that in the coming weeks? Would you like to guest post your schedule too? Let me know?

Hey Phil, (great name)!
Thanks for the encouraging feedback!

Scott!!!
It’s great to have those places to hideaway. I also get so many opportunities to reach out the staff there and the locals who come in regularly and have gotten to know me. Headphones are vital to tune out and tune into my message writing. My next goal is to get noise canceling ones…

Phil <

]]> Comment on Three Youth Ministry Priorities For Mondays by Scott Tinman http://youthworktalk.com/2012/05/07/three-youth-ministry-priorities-for-mondays/comment-page-1/#comment-925 Scott Tinman Mon, 07 May 2012 22:12:23 +0000 http://youthworktalk.com/?p=3254#comment-925 Phil- Great post...almost deja vu for me as that is the rhythm that I have gotten into for the start of my week and using Monday as a Study Day at a local coffee shop. I have actually another Youthworker here in town that we sometimes are at the same place and sit at the same table and work together but yet not talk to each other much..except maybe when we grab something to eat together during a break in our day. Been a challenge at times to guard this day...and when I don't throws off the rest of the week. Phil-

Great post…almost deja vu for me as that is the rhythm that I have gotten into for the start of my week and using Monday as a Study Day at a local coffee shop. I have actually another Youthworker here in town that we sometimes are at the same place and sit at the same table and work together but yet not talk to each other much..except maybe when we grab something to eat together during a break in our day. Been a challenge at times to guard this day…and when I don’t throws off the rest of the week.

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