Archive - October, 2012

***NEW*** Youth Ministry / Parent Ministry Resource from CPYU: College Transition Initiative

This week I received an email from , telling me some exciting news about a new initiative they have created.

They have created a great website that provide parents and youth workers with pertinent information, resources, and research concerning students who are heading off to college (or are currently in college).

I could tell you more about it, but instead I will let Walt Mueller tell you more:  Continue Reading…

How To Tell If Your Youth Ministry Is All About You…

About 5 years into my official full- time paid youth pastor role,  I decided it was time for me to hit the “speaking “ circuit.  I felt like I had been in the trenches for a good amount of time, and that it was time to equip others.

There was a pretty big name conference for urban youth ministers at the time and I was invited to submit an outline for consideration.  Word came back that it just “didn’t have enough to offer.”  In other words,  I wasn’t quite ready yet.  Needless to say I was crushed.  Truly, I thought the Lord was calling me to share my experiences with the masses.

Still that experience caused me to step back and examine my heart.  Why did I want to teach and speak?  Did I want others to learn?  Did I want the world to hear what I had to say? If I was honest, did I just want to be famous? Continue Reading…

Simply Youth Ministry Conference – Early Bird Deadline Ends 10.31

Check out the 190+ hours of new training at SYMC 2013 (video below)

A Good Reason To Cancel Sunday School? A Response From Leneita Fix

Recently Phil Bell wrote an article that considered the implications of canceling traditional Sunday school in order to see students involved and connected with the larger church. Here’s a response I wrote for to the ‘Worship Together’ plan that Saddleback has created. It might help you consider another side to the idea…

I am more than a youth pastor. I am the crazed parent of two current, and one almost, middle schoolers. Not only that, I’ve “parented” my niece who just recently moved out of our home for college. My husband and I were purposed and focused in raising our kids in Christ. We thought we succeeded when all of our children “asked Jesus into their heart” by the time they were hitting kindergarten.


Keys To Youth Ministry Longevity: An Interview With A Veteran Youth Worker – Joel Snyder

What does it take to hang in for the long haul of youth ministry? How can someone stay at the same church for a lengthy period of time and see great fruit because of their longevity? What are some of the keys to staying healthy and happy in youth ministry? Today, we hear from youth ministry veteran Joel Snyder, who has been in youth ministry for 25 years at the SAME church!

1) Joel, you just recently celebrated being in youth ministry at the same church for 25 years! How did you do that?  Continue Reading…

Winners of 5 Copies of ‘Everyone’s Called to Youth Ministry’ Announced.

If have not checked out the outstanding new book by Darren Sutton, you really should. Below are the twitter names of 5 lucky winners, who either commented or tweeted, (or did both).










If you don’t see your name there and still want to pick up a copy, you can buy it over at LeaderTreks by

A Good Reason to Cancel Sunday School In Your Youth Ministry?

Is it possible that canceling ’Sunday School’ for your youth ministry once a month can actually help your students develop a stronger faith and connection with your church? Well, apparently this is true. According to a gigantic study by , two of the greatest indicators for a life-long faith after high school include: 1) Being a regular part of church worship services 2) Serving within the church. For many of us who have a Sunday morning student ministry program, we are aware that many of our students only attend our student specific programs, and there is the potential that they will hardly ever serve in church or attend regular services.

This could be a detriment to their faith walk… Continue Reading…

GUEST POST: Overcome Bullying – You Can Bring Hope To Your Community

“There is no hope. The most we can do is help our kids learn how to cope with bullying because nothing is going to ever change”.

These words shocked me! Especially since they came from one of the nations leading anti-bullying experts. This expert had more letters after their name and more research hours than I have been alive, but I respectfully and totally disagree with them.

There is hope! There are solutions and answers for schools, for families, for parents, and for students who are dealing with the epidemic of bullying. Yes, it’s an epidemic. And yes, it’s always been around, but today’s generation of students is dealing with a new strain of bullying. An extremely lethal and toxic strain that is much greater than the playground bullies I dealt with 25 years ago. It’s a strain that is so vindictive and so powerful that students are taking their own lives to escape the pain. Continue Reading…

How to Recover from a Bad Day in Youth Ministry

Have you had one of ‘those’ days lately in your youth ministry? You know the one… A bad night at youth group where nothing went to plan… A student who made a horrendous mistake that you didn’t see coming… That parent who chewed you out and didn’t give you any grace… Or maybe your leader has not appreciated all your hard efforts…

No matter how hard we try, we can’t avoid having bad days in ministry… Working with people is messy, and we have to admit it, we are flawed people too… But how can you and I recover from one of those days?

Here are some things I have to be reminded of often: 

1) Tomorrow is a new Day: When you and I have a bad day, there’s often the feeling that we will never recover from our predicament. However, God is not done with us and no matter how much we’ve messed up, or how much someone else has hurt us, God gives us a fresh start each day. Seek the safety and shelter of God and discover His fresh start today!
2) It’s not about us: Sometimes we take tough days way too hard simply because we are hanging on too hard and trying to do everything in our own strength. Some of us, if we are honest, have been fueled by people pleasing in an unhealthy way. When a student rejects us, or parent is upset, or a leader in the church is hard on us, we take it too personally. It’s good to remember that our strength, purpose, and affirmation should come from God, not people. It’s not about you. It’s not about me. It’s about God, his plans, and his purposes. When you and I get caught up with people pleasing, we begin to elevate others and ourselves above God… Refocus on Him.

Continue Reading…

FREE eBook: Student Driven Mentoring by LeaderTreks

I’m excited to tell you about a great free resource from our friends over at LeaderTreks. In Student Driven Mentoring Doug Franklin takes a fresh look at what’s working and what’s not when it comes to mentoring. Students have to want to be mentored for it to really work. Doug explores the motivations students have for being mentored and helps you build a program around those motives so that students will be all-in with their mentors. This book also offers a lot of great tips for adult mentors on how to dig deep into students’ lives.

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